Comments on: Bitter genitalia http://andreaslloyd.dk/2008/08/bitter-genitalia/ Mon, 08 Aug 2011 09:07:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Andreas http://andreaslloyd.dk/2008/08/bitter-genitalia/comment-page-1/#comment-100096 Andreas Tue, 21 Oct 2008 07:10:49 +0000 http://eskar.dk/andreas/blog/?p=315#comment-100096 Thank you for the comments! Laila, I'd agree that parenthood probably changes your perspective, but I would also guess that that isn't apparent right away: Most people expect to be able to continue their lives as they were before. As I understood the point of the book, the challenge is to prepare your mind to some extent beforehand. To take the time to redefine your life to include the role of being a parent. I guess it's not as easy as it might sound. And, indeed, this fundamental change seems to be scaring away a lot of would-be parents. And I guess that to some extent that makes your second point much more important: To find the right person to be a parent with. Then again, all this thinking is probably just complicating the matter even further. No easy answers given. :-) Thank you for the comments!

Laila, I’d agree that parenthood probably changes your perspective, but I would also guess that that isn’t apparent right away: Most people expect to be able to continue their lives as they were before.

As I understood the point of the book, the challenge is to prepare your mind to some extent beforehand. To take the time to redefine your life to include the role of being a parent.

I guess it’s not as easy as it might sound. And, indeed, this fundamental change seems to be scaring away a lot of would-be parents. And I guess that to some extent that makes your second point much more important: To find the right person to be a parent with.

Then again, all this thinking is probably just complicating the matter even further. No easy answers given. :-)

]]> By: Laila http://andreaslloyd.dk/2008/08/bitter-genitalia/comment-page-1/#comment-99016 Laila Wed, 08 Oct 2008 09:28:31 +0000 http://eskar.dk/andreas/blog/?p=315#comment-99016 got you - and your points - and it sounds like an interesting book, even if it is " new wine in old bottles" to ( grandmother) me, cause I have read a lot of these books when I was younger. I am sure, that a lot of the past - and present writers do not agree with me in MY points, and I know that it is not working for all people like this, but anyway. My personal experience is quite simple. Becoming a parent, makes you change some perspectives and aspects in your life.You are simply changing as a human beeing. You give up a part of the things you want to do, because you are getting something better, a new meaning of life. And - you do it by your own free will, cause some of the things you wanted to do before, looses its meanings. You give up a little, and get so much back.And you know it - by instinct. So don`t worry - just go for it - and name her Laila :) - I am sure/know that you nice, mature young man have so much to give,that the problem can be " overlooked " - at least in time. Becoming a parent is a natural part of life,and should not be a scientific prob -in any way ! Anyway - the most important choice in your life is WHO you decides to become a parent WITH, but that is quite another subject- the essential one. Love - me ! got you – and your points – and it sounds like an interesting book, even if it is ” new wine in old bottles” to ( grandmother) me, cause I have read a lot of these books when I was younger. I am sure, that a lot of the past – and present writers do not agree with me in MY points, and I know that it is not working for all people like this, but anyway.
My personal experience is quite simple. Becoming a parent, makes you change some perspectives and aspects in your life.You are simply changing as a human beeing. You give up a part of the things you want to do, because you are getting something better, a new meaning of life. And – you do it by your own free will, cause some of the things you wanted to do before, looses its meanings. You give up a little, and get so much back.And you know it – by instinct.
So don`t worry – just go for it – and name her Laila :) – I am sure/know that you nice, mature young man have so much to give,that the problem can be ” overlooked ” – at least in time. Becoming a parent is a natural part of life,and should not be a scientific prob -in any way ! Anyway – the most important choice in your life is WHO you decides to become a parent WITH, but that is quite another subject- the essential one.
Love – me !

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]]> By: biella http://andreaslloyd.dk/2008/08/bitter-genitalia/comment-page-1/#comment-94246 biella Thu, 21 Aug 2008 13:53:59 +0000 http://eskar.dk/andreas/blog/?p=315#comment-94246 great overview of what seems to be a great book. i can identify a lot with what she says and i have not even had a kid! but i see this all the time with my friends and i think the "structure of feelings" she addresses is key! b great overview of what seems to be a great book. i can identify a lot with what she says and i have not even had a kid! but i see this all the time with my friends and i think the “structure of feelings” she addresses is key!

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